I am writing to you – one 15-year-old in a million - but
my message is for all of the women in the world. Hortencia, I want to tell you
something, and then I want you to tell two other women, and each of those two
women will tell two women. Do you think we can reach all of us?
Too many times people tell you what you can’t do
because you’re female. You were born into a place where women “can’t” do a lot
of things. I want to tell you what you can
do, I want to talk and talk and talk about the things that you can do until you
understand that there is nothing you can’t do. Being female can be inconsequential
or crucial. It shouldn’t matter, but it’s everything. In Nauela, there is a
division between men and women that has rarely been crossed. It’s actively
maintained by all of us, but now I want to rip it apart, and I need you to
help. It’s not the job of one person, it’s the job of all the people who are
being choked by this thick black line. I don’t want to hear anymore that we
can’t do something because women don’t do that. I want to do those things to
show that women can do them. But I need your help. I know what you can do, and
you can do anything. But it’s not enough for me to know, you too need to know
what you can do, and believe it.
YOU CAN SPEAK. You can speak and you can be heard.
Speak until someone hears you, and don’t stop there. Speak with confidence.
Hortencia, take your hand away from your mouth when you speak. You can look
straight at the person you’re speaking to. Why do you avert your eyes? You
don’t have to speak in a whisper, or just move your lips with no sound coming
out. You can make noise. Make a lot of noise.
YOU CAN SAY NO. If someone is pressuring you to do
something you don’t want to do, you don’t have to do it. You have the right to
refuse. You don’t have to stay silent and submit. Talk to someone who can help
you. You don’t have to be 15 and pregnant like so many of your classmates. I
want to see you finish school. I want to see you earn the grades you earn, not
the grades that a teacher decides to give you because you did or did not
satisfy his wishes.
YOU CAN SAY YES. We are all human. It’s natural, and
normal, and ok, to want something. You can say when you want something. You
don’t have to use false charm, flirt your way through, or stand there hoping
someone will notice you. If you want something, say it. Speak up. If you have a
dream, pursue it. Have a dream.
YOU CAN RAISE YOUR HAND. You are as intelligent as
your male classmates. Show them that. Show them up. Show them who you are.
Speak up in class. Swarm the chalk container when I ask for volunteers. Race
them to the board. Drown them out with
your answers. Grab the spots on the benches, instead of always sitting on the
floor. You have an opinion, and it’s just as valid as others.
YOU CAN PLAY SOCCER. I want to see you kicking the
ball, not being kicked off the field yourself. When you hear someone snickering
“she plays like a girl,” raise your head proudly and say, “yes we do.” Sometimes
you have to fight back. Sometimes you have to demand respect. Sometimes you
have to rob the ball to get attention. Kick your way through, if that’s what it
takes.
YOU CAN BE WHOEVER YOU WANT TO BE. You deserve to have
a bright future. If you want to get a good education, you deserve that. It’s
not your obligation to get married young, have kids when you’re still a kid,
and quit school while your husband continues living his life. You can work and
earn your own money. You can have a great personality! You don’t have to mold
to what society tells you a women should be. You can be bold, tell jokes, be
sarcastic, talk back, be witty, be tough. Whoever you are, you can let that
person out.
YOU CAN. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that you
can’t.
From one woman to another,
Steph
Hortencia. |